he has been spending oodles of time outside "hanging out"
Ali,
My H and I split briefly once before. When he came home I made a very big effort on the ML front (b/c I recognised I hadn't done for a long time and it was one of his gripes). Anyway like your H mine spent a lot of time outside. It even used to take him all day to clean his car inside and out! So one day whilst he was finishing up (as in getting showered after being in the garage all day) I found a clean pair of overalls of his and put them on (and only them!) Then I went into the garage and called H making out that I needed his help to find something that he had tidied away that day. Boy was he in for a surprise when he came into the garage. He'd never seen me before in overalls and killer heels ;). We closed the door and well the rest I'll leave up to your imagination. Suffice to say that it was a while before he spent all day cleaning his car again.
Now clearly something went wrong again b/c he's not been gone 31 months but I still cherish moments like those. I think I've given up hoping I will ever be able to recreate them with my H again but who knows.
This was a rambled post to say play him at his own game (in a fun way) and NEVER EVER stop trying (as I know both H and I did).
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
