Thanks Michelle and Rob,
There is no way for me to know if moving so fast changed things or not. I think if I could have gotten him out of the house any other way but by divorce, that would have been the best choice. But there really wasn't any other way to get him out. I can't believe I am divorced and we were never seperated. That just seems so strange. I also can't believe it was exactly 7 months from him telling me that the OW's friendship means as much to him as our marriage to the day the D was final. I really feel like I moved in super speed, but as I mentioned before the story really started in August 2006 when he was with that prostitute.

I will not take H back any time soon. He has to deal with his issues. I have long believed that he was a sex addict and I think that needs to be faced. The fact that he was molested as a child and never got counseling and it obviously is still something that is haunting him needs to be worked out. I believe all of those things lead to him cheating on me in one way or another.

Besides....why would I want H when I am having fun with cutie? At least with cutie there is no drama and I can actually relax and be myself around him....

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08