She blames you for ruining her life to avoid taking the responsibility for where she is in life.
This is really wise, MIM. From what I've read on this board, it seems like if a M is saved, it's 99% of the time because the WAS figures out, on their own, cause they're given the space to do it, that the LBS isn't to blame for where they are in life.
And it works both ways--the LBS also has take responsibility for where they are in life, too. Otherwise, they seem to carry blame into it any reconciling effort.
If BOTH can see where they had a hand in creating their own lives and their M, then it seems like people end up in piecing. If only the LBS takes that responsibility, it seems like they end up divorced, but still OK and much wiser.
Just my 2 cents from WAAAAYYY too much reading on here.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
