So I'm on this work trip to Indianapolis. I'm with a couple of other women. Somehow today at lunch we got on the subject of love and marriage and cheating. Turns out I'm divorced, a woman I'll call A is divorced after being cheated on, another woman I'll call T is still married after being cheated on and the 4th woman - M, is currently married after being cheated on but is still very much in the midst of it.

At lunch she started to let loose, but at dinner it really came out. In the most bizzare way too. M is a bubbly person, in her early 50's. She talks to everyone and complimented someone on their clothes. That started a conversation and somehow the 5 of us women were all talking about marriage and cheating. Turns out Stranger went through a divorce too. M was saying she doesn't know if she can forgive him, they went through counseling for a while but have stopped. He won't even admit to the affair, even though M went as far as hiring a PI! He has done a total 180 but there is a lot more than the affair. He has been verbally and mentally abusive! She went through breast cancer and that is when he had his affair and he wasn't even there for her! She said the OW has called her house as recently as 3 weeks ago. Her H claims that OW is just a crazy stalker (can I see a show of hands of those of you who hear this?)
Anyway, tonight was the first time M really talked about it because she blames herself and she was too embarassed to talk about it with any of her friends. In talking to us co-workers and the stranger it really came out.
Well.....to make a funny ending, she was drinking wine all night then had some cranberry and vodka. Needless to say I made sure she was tucked in tight to sleep it off. \:\)


Seeing all these people who went through similar situations and had such different outcomes - just...Wow.


Some things the stranger was talking about also really hit home with me about love, marriage, divorce and my R with BF and even my R with some of my friends.

Interesting to see how God works things out sometimes, huh?

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.