Well, what I have so far is a new, really slinky little black dress (not too dressy, though, just cute and short), and the idea to go to an intimate little Italian restaurant.
I think he might feel really uncomfortable with a gift. Hmmm...
I think if I can really feel apart from the situation, really detached, it would be real giving. No expectations whatsoever, prepared for anything he might say with acceptance. And I do feel accepting of whatever he could say at this point. I feel like I have a good life, one that I am proud of, and one that doesn't need his involvement.
It's a mirror image of what my life was like when we first met...maybe that is a gift? After all the guilt I know he harbors?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
