The Wifey - Still working.

[Continuing]

Hi Wifey,
Tough times, I see (me too). I'm sorry, I really am; I know the pain, the frustartion, the rage, the sorrow...and the fear.

I have a new favorite quote at the moment:
"Fear is the natural reaction to moving closer to the truth."

And it is a truth about yourself. You and I are terrified at the spector of our spouses' departure. The question is 'Why'? (and the answer is much deeper than "because he's important to me" or "because I love him" or "he's all I've ever known")

I can't answer this for you but I believe the answer, once found and worked through, will fundementally change who you are. My goal is to use this time to find out these answers and ultimately change. But its not just changing what I do (although thats part of it). Acting as if is, in some ways putting the cart before the horse and this is ok, it gives us time to figure some things out.
But the changes I am attempting to make far surpass any behavioral changes that I can 'do'. I'm going for something more dramatic...say...rebirth.

So, IMO, GAL is NOT about making yourself happy its about being happy with yourself.