Love is a decision, commitment is a decision, forgiveness is a decision, .......I could go on. If she rejects the marriage, then she CHOOSES to not love you, commit to you, forgive you, keep the family together. Working on the relationship is something she never did when you put those rings in the box. She has been stalling on making a CHOICE.
wdid, tell me what your trying to say, because you just described my wife to a T. How can I fight this? I want desperatly to understand what you have been saying to me.
Why is my request of her to attend something with me that is supposed to possibly heal the marriage, going to change her mind and stop rejecting the marriage.
To me, she HAS decided.
It was guilt that just delayed it for so long. That and the fact that she had no job for so long. That and the fact that she was struck down with a stroke. That is also why she is not trying to rake me over the coals. That is why she no longer attends church. So and so on.
She is in love with someone else, plain and simple. She SEES nothing else. She has DECIDED to love someone else. She has DECIDED to commit to someone else. She has DECIDED to move out. She has DECIDED to break up the family. She has DECIDED to take her love away from me. She has DECIDED to bring heartache to my girls. She has DECIDED to reject our marriage. She HAS DECIDED to work on a relationship.
Unfortunatly, its just not with me.
I don't think she is fogged anymore.
Only time will tell now.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
