JUST USED LRT-WHAT DO I DO NOW???

[Sanderika]

brue,

My H and I have been separated for 35.5 months. My H has had same OW since he left me. My H has stayed in contact with me regularly even sexually even though he has been gone.

I practiced my own verson of DB just like you did and I have found the techniques to be very similiar to those I thought of and practiced all by myself. That is even why H and I have maintained a personal and physical relationship for the past three years. I too do not find the DB and DR books very helpful to me and my sitch. I feel the books are better suited for couples who have not separated but are having troubles in the day to day routines.

HOW LONG WERE YOU AND YOUR H SEPARATED???

DID YOU AND YOUR H HAVE CONTACT WHILE SEPARATED??? WAS THERE ANY SEX???

DID YOUR H HAVE OW???

WHAT BROUGHT H HOME???

DID YOU TELL H YOU WOULD FILE FOR A D AND HAVE HIM SERVED???

I Called a Lawyer today and made an appt. for 8/25/08 @ 3:00pm.
I scheduled it for 3 weeks away to get used to the idea I have done this.

You say I will know "when I know". I am not sure I am totally done even though I have made this call. My H is coming back from vacation with OW and expecting to be served. H will think I am calling his bluff if I don't, and like Jack_Three_Beans has said if I don't follow thru with a so-called LRT I am a door mat. I wish I had not said what I said to him. I do not want to be considered a door mat.

I would rather just let go like you did and let H see that and have him come back on his own just the way yours did.

Please tell me more about your sitch. Like how long were you married, together, reasons for the separation, you know....I am very curious about your story if you don't mind.

My story is spelled out in my posts. My H is in a typical MLC. My sitch has a lot of unique qualities to it though.

I just came from my IC and I cried the whole way through my visit.

I am a very tired woman.

I am a very scared woman.

I am a very hurt woman.

THREE YEARS IS A VERY LONG TIME. MY H HAS A RELATIONSHIP WITH OW NOW NOT JUST AN AFFAIR.

I do want my H to come home to us more than anything.

Thank you brue....

Sanderika