Jeff, I have to wonder, I think sometimes our WAS are majorly motivated about the kids for financial reasons (my H doesn't want to give me any financial support) or appearances and that kind of thing. I wonder if after the D they will see the children less when there are not those motivations or whatever. My H barely saw the kids the first 6 months of his affair, and he has always had his workouts as a bigger priority than the kids, He told me his job was his 1st priority, then workouts, then the kids, then his friends and I was like 5th (and that was a few years ago), so I wonder if he will again drop the kids in a while. I guess if that's the case, I'll just try to be there for them as you will be there for your kids. Or maybe they will grow up at some point? Karen
