Anxiously awaiting long term Patience!!

[JWS]

TD- thanks man you summed things up perfectly. You are right on about the way I make decision and how that affects hers. Also about all of the good steps that took place. Hind sight being what it is, her withdrawing makes perfect sense and I should have seen it coming, but rather I was so caught up in the moment that it blind sided me.

Dan - very well put I have never met and man that does not know how to take care of things himself, but the other forms of intimacy are harder to fake, however last night was the first night with my puppy back and although he is "not allowed on the bed", we snuggled all night long. I think the rules at my house will be slightly different then at hers. I too am not ready to walk any dangerous path and I am glad that it is firmly in my beliefs so I can resist any temptation.

I do feel good about the weekends baby steps, but something about actually telling her its ok to get a D, has taken away my hope, its like the wind is out of my sails. I feel more hopeful after reading TD summary, but all night and morning I could not get my head around it so I decided not to fly for the next few days and am having a not regular meeting with my shrink to talk about this.

Work although supportive of my needs does not like the limbo factor and I am getting told to make the right decision and deal with this. I have no problem dealing with tuff issues at work but I am not about to go get a D just to make them happy. in a way this makes me a better leader, I too would have most likely counseled a subordinate to just protect himself and move on, not understanding the dynamics of a WAS.

I have a new friend at work that has kind of been a good person for me to talk to; he just went through a nasty D with three kids in the picture. He is the one that filed because she was messing up his life so bad, but listening to him talk she sounds like a WAS and I wish he could have had some of this info because he has been left very bitter and he is such a nice guy.