Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[Jen_Jam]

"He was always doting, loving, and would joke that if I ever left him he'd follow me around the world until I took him back. He said I was his gift, the love of his life, his princess.."

yep - I had this too. Pre-bomb, my H was always kind, loving, telling me he loved me etc etc.

I agree with BigHands, he does sound like he's in some kind of depression. Mine was. He needed so much to work on himself and have a (long) break from me.

The reminders of you again to him will seem like you pushing. So will pushing for the C sessions - a real 180 would be for you to cancel them. Say you'll do them "maybe later - we'll see" (use his words right back at him, but not in a mean way)

I KNOW this is hard and I KNOW you will be thinking "what if he enjoys life better without me?" because I thought EXACTLY THE SAME. But you have to let go. Trust in the universe/god/buddha/whatever to make it right. Work on YOU and YOU alone.

So - let's start working on you. What do you think your part in the M crisis was? Do you like the way you are? Is there anything you would change about yourself? Is there anything you used to do that you have kind of let slide?

I want the answers to these Notice they are all about YOU. Let H go off in his wet nappy for now. On the boards here, we are only concerned with YOU right now - how you feel, how we can help YOU.