On the rings front, I think you should keep them off or take them off depending on how you feel about things, but not as a way of getting a reaction out of your H. I struggled with this at the beginning and would change my mind from day-to-day. Currently I'm rings on, (but off when I see H- an experiment).
Congratulations on the baby! I'm so sorry this is happening at what should be such a happy time for you and my heart goes out to you for that. I think, as far as you can, keep baby discussions brief and upbeat (however H responds). Don't initiate baby talk unless you have to. Your H sounds confused and stressed- he's obviously dealing with some stuff in his own head right now and (sadly) he probably needs to deal with that right now. Hard on you, I know. (((((hugs)))))
And in general, I'm so glad the 180s are showing some baby steps. For a couple of success stories involving pregnancy and OW try Pipeliners_Wife, and married_three_months in the archives.
