Posted this for karen43 not long ago - thought it might help you as well...
The Icky Old Band Aid Analogy
Remind yourself that your WAS is hurting, and they have applied the OP to their hurt like a band aid. But in fact, the OP is a really lousy band aid - they don't actually help the WAS heal, because the source of their pain is deep inside. The OP just temporarily covers up the hurt so your spouse can pretend this is helping.
Eventually the OP will get all gunky and smelly and black around the edges and start to peel away, and your spouse will wonder why in the world they ever thought this was a good way to make themselves feel better.
In the meantime, don't worry about the OP - they are insignificant. YOU are the one that matters.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
