I have to think about what is right for Phil. Wife is in her own little world.
No, Phil, you need to think about what is best for Phil's KIDS.
I agree with your assessment of your wife, by and large. It is what it is, and you have the advantage of it being a perfectly predictable behavior.
You win: you have convinced us your wife is nuts. That's pretty much a given when they're wayward. 600 posts later, we will concede the point. YOU WERE RIGHT.
The question is, what are you going to do about it. And 600 posts later, you're still classifying it as having to do what's best for Phil.
You say you want to go for full custody. I respect that, but what makes you think that you are a more fit parent than your wife right now, in the Court's eyes?