Looking for support from other WAS's

[istherehope]

Hi GPD,

Nice to meet you. I'm a relative newcomer myself (approximately 2 weeks on the board) with a WAH.

While I don't know a lot yet, I do know that one day is nothing in DB terms. This doesn't mean that it isn't painful or significant (yesterday was the first full day on which H hadn't contacted me in about 7 years and I cried for much of the day), but if you are in this to try and save the marriage, chances are very slim that you will be able to measure results in terms of days. I am inclined to think in months or maybe, if you are very lucky, in weeks.

Other wise DBers have said not to put a timeline on things. This is something I myself am struggling with too. We have a separation that will technically end in late October, but this does not mean that the troubles will be over, or that another separation won't ensue. Is your W still at home? If she is, you might be in a better position to see quicker results. What did your coach suggest?

Is your W willing to go to counseling? Would she consider a session with a coach whether individual or joint? Is there someone else in the picture or is this not an issue?

Peaceful thoughts to you,
ITH