I work in sales, and they teach us that the prospect isn't rejecting US when they say no, they are rejecting the PRODUCT (or service). I don't want to trivialize something as important as your relationship with your wife, but if she continues to move away from you, she really is rejecting the MARRIAGE, not you personally.
There is a difference. It took me a long time to see it, because I am by nature a rescuer/pleaser/co-dependent/enmeshed person, but there IS a difference.
