M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Nothing new so far. We had a good weekend. I went out Friday night, H stayed with the kids. They were all asleep when I got home. Saturday, he went and spoke with his father. He told me that he looked so disappointed when he told him. I asked if he was ok and he said, I kinda have to be now. That was all that was said about the subject. We hung out that night. Sunday we hung out around the house and with our neighbors, made a game to play outside. Watched some tv that night, then both of us sat at our respective comps for a while. He's made a few comments about the future. I've replied to his comments, but haven't gotten excited or anything about it. And I'm letting him bring the stuff up. This morning, OW called him. She wants all the stuff back that she bought him. They were together on and off for almost a year. She was his sugar momma....always buying him stuff. The day he left her, she wouldn't let him get any of his stuff out of her apartment, saying she bought it all and he wouldn't get it back. He was able to get the stuff he originally had back from her tho after threatening to bring the police into it if she refused. He has always left some clothes here at our house and the purpose of this mornings phone call was to get some of those clothes back that she bought. He brought them out and sat them at the table where I was at. I didn't know what he was doing and that's when he informed she wanted EVERYTHING back and that she would be picking them up today at his office. I asked really!? He said yes. I asked what she was planning on doing with it? Throwing it all away!? He said he didn't know. We left it at that. I know it's just another way for her to contact him. And I'm proud of the fact that he got it all together and took it to the office to get it done asap. I spoke with a church counselor Friday afternoon. It made me feel alittle bit better. We talked about the situation, about my role as a Christian. I'll be seeing her again this week as well. I'm not saying anything else about the situation to him. Sometimes the urge gets so bad! But I end up getting thru it. If he wants to talk about it, he will bring it up. I know he still has feelings for her, and I can't bash her in any way. That will just make her look better. So instead, I'm focusing on registering for school. Taking care of the kids and the house. My knitting. And a movie that I've had for a week that is still sitting in my DVD player cuz I haven't watched it yet!!!! lol
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
(((C13))) You are doing good. I know how hard it is, trust me. If you ever just wanna vent though, and you will, we're here.
Take care of you and keep on doing what you have been. Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
(((Corey))) thank you so much! every little bit of encouragement helps!!
I just got dressed up, waiting for my MIL to come watch the kids. I'm going to register for school, but I have to run by his office before to get something. Then afterwards, he has asked me to go with him to his lawyers office to sign the paperwork to dismiss the D! It was granted last month, but the judge gave us until tomorrow to enter the judgement. So since it's already been granted, we both have to agree to dismiss it, even tho he filed.
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
THE DIVORCE HAS BEEN DISMISSED!!!! We went yesterday and signed the order to dismiss it. His lawyer took it this morning and entered it. The judge signed it. The case has been officially closed because of dismissal!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
THE DIVORCE HAS BEEN DISMISSED!!!! We went yesterday and signed the order to dismiss it. His lawyer took it this morning and entered it. The judge signed it. The case has been officially closed because of dismissal!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
I have been keeping an eye on you and I am happy that it was dismissed! You both have alot of work today, but I am sure you already knew that. AS for OW I guess don't believe it until you see it!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks for the replies and encouragement. It really helps. And to top it all off, I registered for my school yesterday and I start next month! It's only for a certificate, but it's more than what I have now. I told H last night, it may not be much to some people, but its alot to me. It will get me back into the work force. I'll be able to contribute to the household finances again, and it will help me in continuing my GAL! One of my goals is finally in view!!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
(((C13))) Glad to read about the dismissal and you registering for school. Its good to focus on you and your goals right now. I agree with Kat about OW. As we all know, if she is preggers, it'll show sooner or later. LOL.
Keep your chin up and keep doing things for you. Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option