Just my 2 cents here, & a hijack....sorry Tim, it's late, & I'm getting goofy.
Men don't ask if they're fat because they're in denial. lol
No were not in denial, we know if we are fat, we just do not ask a question we do not want our W to answer. They just might tell us.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Society teaches that a womans value increases with her appearance. No wonder we need constant reassurance. I do have the body of a model, & still want compliments.
......, sorry just picturing a model with a plumbing snake in her hand...........ok moving on here.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Man rules are totally confusing to women. Like...why do guys laugh when another guy gets hurt ?
If we get hurt it is more than likely because we were doing something stupid. We are laughing at the stupid act and not the fact that we got hurt. Also it is our way of asking "are you ok" if the hurt person laughs we know they are fine if they don't we know they are really hurt. Its weird but it is our way of showing concern and the hurt person can get up deal with the pain without feeling self consious or show how much it hurt.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Women with healthy self-esteem want direct communication, & can say things like..."please wash my car", or "I'd like to make love". Women with esteem or self-worth issues go in circles to get to their point because they fear rejection & denial. Women with healthy assertiveness don't need to hold onto things & wait for them to fester & blow. Women with healthy assertiveness handle things quickly, without strong emotional outburst, & don't take things personally.
My W is so confident and independent but when it comes to asking for what she wants she does not. I have gotten much better at knowing the question she is really asking when she says something to me.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Men should always apologize.
I also learnd this a long time ago. Yesterday my W was getting a can out of the cabinets and dropped it on her foot. She stood up and hit me in the arm. I said " I'm sorry its my fault I was talking to you." She said "yea it is." It was a nice exchange. Plus it show she is getting more comfortable with me.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
"Do you love me?" is a frightening question for a lot of people. That's why in a healthy relationship we should tell them we love them, every single day. So they don't need to wonder or ask.
It is frightning and if we ever do get our M back together I will tell her everyday and she will never have to wonder about my love for her again.
