Memories keep sneaking in....I still miss him!

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Treese - I had a good visit. It was odd at first, being there without H. H's best friend has been my friend since the beginning of our R---29years ago, and his wife as well. He made himself scarce so his wife and I could talk----and I gave her an ear full,right or wrong. It felt good to let it out. It felt good to be validated by an old friend that also knows H.

Reluctantly (because of the awkwardness), I called H's mother and asked if we could have dinner together. She was thrilled! We ate and after the kids went to the other room, we talked for a long time. I don't know that the kids didn't listen to some of it, but we tried to be discreet. Seems when she visited our house last (a few weeks ago)............I left early to get D15 to a softball tournament. H and S came later. I asked if MIL left and he said yes. MIL says he waved goodbye to her and left. He didn't hug her goodbye (ALWAYS DOES),he did not wait to see if her car started (she is 66), he just waved and left. She was extremely hurt. I tried to explain as much as I can. I told her that what he's going through right now is all about him, that there is NOTHING she can do, and it is NOTHING about her. I did not tell her about OW, and don't plan to. I just tried to explain enough about MLC so she would understand. She said she was just sure the way he was treating her that he just hated her and that she would never see the kids again. He is her only son----and we are all she has. She has been thinking she would just be alone...........

I was so glad I went. So glad I stopped by. S9 and D11 spent the night with her Saturday. When I picked them up I told her to call anytime and told her she could visit any time as well. I think she was very relieved, but still mourning the loss of her son................We've never had so much in common.