Thanks snodderly have been keeping busy-planned evening classes looking for house to rent and spending time with my daughter.H is coming up on Tues to"discuss options" (money matters) havent seen him for 3 months he said it will be upsetting(guilt)Have to sort this out then I feel I will be able to leave him swinging as you said.He knows where I am and he knows I love him.My gut feeling is also that this will take a long time with no guarantees so I have to move on.But as long as I am still married this is hard.I have always felt that in a couple of years he will turn up again in my life.He has always said he couldnt not see me,even during the bomb.Ive set myself some goals and that has helped.Thank you for replying to my posts-havent anyone else. After a year my family are compassion fatigued and cant understand why I still hold on,so I cant talk to them about it any more with them.
