From a one year divorcee (stigma attached thank you).....what I do for my girl.
Unfortunately I have to work 2 jobs. I work one night a week and the weekends I don't have her. The weekends I don't have her, I recharge. The weekends I do have her are for her. The nights I have her, I try to keep a consistent routine so she feels safe.
Her dad.....IMO is a let down. Given the history I had with my dad, he's truly a let down. Ahhh but "he's changed".
I guess what I would like to see is not you pushing us to push them (dead beats) to be better parents. We're divorced.
I've raised a few issues with him. He knows how I feel. He knows what he should be doing. But he's a "big boy" and is doing what he wants.
Perfect example. He's taking a trip with his GF/OW next week. He had my girl all week and did spend time with her (good on him) but never even mentioned this trip to her. He lies to her, saying the GF who sleeps in his bed is his "friend". How confusing is that.
I try to combat the issues as they arise, set her straight, be honest with her without completely trashing her father.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
