confused13, i have not read your thread but caught sight on the title re: pregnancy. This is a very difficult situation for all. IMHO, be supportive of your H at this time. This is a mess they both created. He is not in a good time now, very confused and scared I would guess. Be supportive but DO NOT make decisions for him or advise him on this subject. I believe that this is what he and OW have to decide regarding the pregnancy. You don't want to be involved in that, eventhough their decision will affect you. You can lay out the boundaries with the different options he may choose (you cannot tolerate H seeing her even with no termination, or you are OK with it), but make sure those are really your boundaries, and something you use to manipulate his decision. Stay clearly out of his decision making. You don't want H or OW to come back and blame you for their decision, and I do think this part is their decision alone. Meanwhile, I think you can be supportive and stand for now and not pressure H. He has enough on his plate for now.
Sorry I dont' have lots of time to explain so I hope this will help a bit. This is just a bit of advice so just see if it will help. Ultimately, how they handle it is their decision. How you handle it is your decision. While you may not trust OW's pregnancy test, it does not matter. It is whether your H trust OW and don't question his judgement at this time.
Take care, will try to come back to your thread later.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
