Hello JWS. I haven't been keeping up with your situation, but, this is a familiar dilemma.
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The one area that I am not sure how to deal with is my need for affection. I don't need a woman, but life is so much better with one. This last week and even more now, I do a lot of looking and wondering. I am building what I want in a Wife and I am fearful I will stumble across it in someone else. I am confused now and I am only talking a made up person, I can't imagine the confusion if that was to happen. I also don't know if that is what I want or not.
A stone cold B of a situation.
Our Western culture doesn't really have another outlet for affection. It's been my experience and observation that for many women, their emotional needs can be met through friendships and other relationships and if their emotional needs are being met, their physical needs SEEM to hibernate.
For dare I say most men, the situation is a complete opposite. I know that I crave physical touch and affection from someone that I can share my heart with. For me, physical intimacy is the key that unlocks the door to my inner self. I crave closeness and intimacy and aside from my wife, there is really no other outlet. The kids love to smother Dad with hugs and wrestling, but, a hug from my daughter isn't the same.
I don't have an answer for you on how to deal with the problem. I find a way to deal with it by reminding myself that while I can solve the problem, to do so will precipitate the divorce that will bring such pain and hurt to my kids, that I would be trading my pain for their happiness. This, I cannot do.
The one thing that I do, is I go mostly sober to the nightclub and have great fun interactions with the ladies I meet there and I enjoy it for what it is, a fantasy interaction in virtual reality. I also don't confuse if with something that it is not, real life.
