"I am still not 100% sure.. why all the fear about the D. You two are living separate lives.. have separate homes.. don't talk.. he dates other people.. he is not taking care of the pool.. what would you loose in the D? I know its not a simple answer.. "
I still want a answer to this question..
You need to be prepared.. really you do.. I am telling you.. Sandi2 and anyone else can help you with this.. you just have to keep them in the loop.
Talk it out!!!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.