The Wifey - Still working.

[Rob1231]

Yesterday he also picked up the DR book and looked at it some. I wouldn't say he did any hard reading. I asked if he would read any of it and he answered that he knew how he felt. I said that the book wouldn't try to talk him out of his feelings, but it might help him find solutions. He knows I've been reading and he saw the Keeping Love Alive cd set in the house. Not sure if that will go anywhere, but he has listened to me talk some about the book and Michelle's idea.

Who knows, maybe he will get curious if I can just stay on an even keel for a while. I've learned that when I am upset I can not just go back to the house. Instead I have to find something else to do or somewhere else to go.

Hi KJo, My best advice for you is to back off trying to "fix" H and focus as much as you can on yourself. He knows the book and CD are there if he wants to look at them - other than that, don't even mention them. That's pressure, and pressure tends to just backfire on us.

There are a lot of very promising things in your sitch - I think you know that. So keep that in mind and do your best to stay on track - which means working on keeping yourself happy, and engaged in life. In my sitch, I believe that my ability to do this - while my W was going into bouts of MLC depression - was a HUGE factor in saving my M. Learn the secret to being happy by yourself, for yourself - and perhaps your H will see that in your face and your words and your actions, and he'll start to wonder if maybe HE'S the one who is really screwed up after all!

You've heard it before, and you'll hear it again: Time and Patience!!! (((Hugs)))