Where the hell IS everyone tonight??? You posted 5 hours ago for crying out loud! (At least it's 2 a.m. here)
WOW this is HUGE. Yeah, so, you snooped. He KNEW you wanted to do this budget, the first stub was just there...I'd have done the same thing. No apologies.
This is not just money, it is security, your kids, your goals, and LIES...I am getting a little enraged at the thought that he's been laying "you need to earn more" on you, while doing this.
Okay....few deep breaths....calming down....
How long do you think this has been going on?
How did he piss away the decent earnings you were making with your former business? Visible purchases, big toys and the like?
Is he out of the house enough to be having a drug problem you wouldn't detect? Is that a possibility given what you know of him? (I've had friends who blew $1000's up their noses back in the '80's).
You say you guys filed for bancruptsy...how long ago?
Is it possible he has some old debt he's paying off in secret?
Well now I'm just mindreading over here and offering no help at all.
What to DO??? I imagine this post will come to late, but your best bet in my books, would be to calmly approach your H, or wait until you're relaxing, and then just tell him you found his stubs and would he like to tell you about the advances?
Calmly if at all possible would be best! And if you can pull that one off, you'll get the Oscar.
Right now I'm kind of praying your H makes it through the night in one piece!
