Once he stops with this divorce idea THEN you can START to do some nice things like cooking him a dinner, but as long as he is moving AWAY FROM YOU, then you need to let him do that and work on yourself.
Get a Life, simply put is your classic "24 days to live" scenario.
Imagine you just went to your doctors office and he says you have less than one month to live. Is this what you will do with those 24 days?
Originally Posted By: poet
1. Going to church with and without friends. 2. Renting a storage unit. 3. Applied for a job half as far away from home. 4. Driving to work two hours a day and back two hours for two weeks. 5. Borrowing my H's truck three times and virtually moving in back home (with help from one man in each place - called Angels of Mercy - it's a church thing). 6. Talking to my pastor. 7. Cleaning up the apt. and getting electricity and water shut off. (I'm all moved out now. That was very stressful on me because I was working a full day and then going to the apt. to move and clean, and then driving home two hours). Ugh! 8. Watching movies, but not really getting into them. (I watched the "Bank Job" last night). 9. Eating out a lot and cooking dinners for myself and H too. (I leave them for him, and sometimes he bites, and sometimes he does not). 10. Playing with the dog. 11. Swimming 12. Reading DB stuff on the here mostly and in some of the books. 13. Unpacking and hiding some of my things around the house. (I think this might be what you're calling a "subtle" hint. H did notice the bike, if you remember from an earlier post. 14. And last but not least; just yesterday, I got a call from the mgr. of that job I applied for closer to home. I have an interview on Thursday, my day off.
Seriously...you have one month to live and this is what you have to show the man upstairs?
Go skydive Go run a marathon Go dancing Go Horseback riding Go fly a kite Go to a kareokee bar and sing your heart out Go buy yourself a new wardrobe Go to Tahiti Go plant a tree Go join the theatre
That is getting a life, this person here knows how to live, they understand that living without breathing is a tragedy and they dont' waste a minute of it.
THAT is the cool person that your husband would want to be around, and that is a person that won't give a damn if their husband is having an affair and his head is all messed up.
That is where you are aiming my dear...your list is a bit short of that.
Note : I haven't done all of these either, its a sample. I did start guitar lessons, I did join a theatre part time, I did plant a tree, I did take dance lessons, and I did buy myself a new wardrobe. It feels GREAT.
