Hey all trying to find my spot on the boards

[mishka422]

Hello there Jeff!

I just wanted to stop by and lend my support. I'm not a great DB'er but I do understand the pain of having your kids around the OP.

That being said, your kids are 21 and 14? I don't want to overstep here but aren't they old enough to make their own decisions about who they meet? I only say this because I did the same thing. Resisted violently for 8 months and finally let my s13 stay with his dad and OW for the first time last night. He's staying there again tonight. I don't like it but he's 13 and has to feel like he can be with his dad and see him without hurting me. It will hurt your kids more in the long run if they think that spending time with their mom means that they are doing damage to you. They will feel pulled between you and will come to resent you for it. Just a heads up warning, not meant as criticism.

We are all here for you. This board is an amazing place to share your feelings and vent. Feel free! If you get 2x4's from us know that it's only out of love and friendship and not cruelty.