How about turning the "fat" question around? I know, ok, I'm guessing, that a man would never make an issues out of gaining weight that women do. But, if you men said to your W the same thing (am I fat, do these pants make me look fat) - what would she say & would a man think its a genuine statement?
There was a beer comercial out a while back that had three men standing around and one of them asked the other two if these jeans mad him look fat. A beer can fell on him. I can only say that I for one have never asked if I looked fat in something, if I have to ask I already know the answer so why ask it. I guess that is why us men are so confused by this question. You already know the answer to the question and nothing we say will change your mind so why put us in that position.
Originally Posted By: MsMelancoly
I will say "bravo" - to my H who said he loved my body - even when I did gain weight. Thinking about it more, I probably did give him that look - but deep down inside, I did believe him. In a way he was saying (or atleast I think he's saying), I know you don't have the "movie star" body, ya never did, ya never will (& I know I never did nor ever will - honestly - I do) and that's not so important to me, I love you all of you. Ah, maybe I'm grasping at straws.
I love my wife, she does not have the body of a supermodel either but that is not why I love her or married her. I have never and never would complain about her weight it does not matter to me. She is just as beautiful to me as she was when I met her even thou she has put on a few pounds. I'm not that shallow. I just don't like being put between a rock and a hard spot and then having her mad at me because I did not respond correctly.
Thanks everyone for your help. It has been insightful to say the least.
