Now I'm not quite as firm in my earlier position. There's a real potential for danger here.
For the rest of us, including Sage and LL...their requests for "the truth" have a very different tenor! They've assured their S's that knowing it was physical would hurt, but they would forgive and move on...most are hurt MORE by the uncertainty.
Here you are being accused, and threatened and I don't like that AT ALL!!
Is it possible that during one of the conversations your H had with OG, OG TOLD him it was physical??? Still, it would be your word against his.
This IS more complicated than I thought. Pop in on Sage, LostLove, Ellie (kml), Sadbuthopeful and some others and directly ask for their input.
