Quote: He wants to know if me and the OG slept together and I have denied it from the start. (It did happen 2 times over the 5 months)He got so violent and freaked out just thinking it was an EA that i really don't want to tell him everything...Think that is OK? There is no way he will find out- no one else knew except me & the OG and he told people we did but- I just denied it cause there was no proof. I think I'm protecting myself and him from more pain...I hope that's the right thing to do. He said he didn't have sex with the girl he met at the bar but he didn't get home from her house until 4am...I don't believe him...but I really don't WANT the details if you know what I mean! So, I figure he really doesn't need the details either!
you've gotten yourself in a tough position now because you lied about it when first questioned...he will continue to ask until you give him the answer he wants...the truth...but now because you've lied about it so many times the pain will be greater it wont just be the fact that you did sleep with him it will be a bigger pain because you lied about it so many times.
my h had an ea...doesn't admit to it being even a little physical..(am I stupid or what) she denies it being physical...for christ sake...he left me...she asked her h for a d so she could be with my h and they never so much as kissed?? because h still denies denies denies when and if he does tell me the truth...it will sting to know sure..but it will be all the more hurtfull to learn that he could blatantly lie to my face again and again and again.
but as sadistic as it may seem...I truly want to know the truth...if h was physical with her I'd like for him to be able to tell me and then we can move forward together without that lingering question...if he did not well then I guess I just have to believe him...but I think I'll always be waiting for that other shoe to drop.
the decision is up to you...can you live with it...can you live with lying forever...
