Hopping over to piecing & short intro

[smokry]

the "not knowing for sure" is absolutely horrendous...get it out there so you can both deal with it constructively. It's not going to be easy for either one of you and there's no way I can promise you a totally positive outcome but if you don't come clean, it will always, always, always be a barrier between you two

Still haven't made a decision...still thinking about it...I appreciate the input!

Some positives- H actually said thank you to me for cooking dinner (which is one of our M goals- 2 b more polite)

We finished the 4th and last seminar tape last night!

We have our "love definitions"

We have 3 positive goals for our marriage & actions to achieve those goals

We are being civil to ea other though somewhat guarded at this point...

I am cautiously hopeful...