Anxiously awaiting long term Patience!!

[JWS]

I asked her what she wanted out of life and her answer was a good job, kids and a H that does not think she is stupid, wrong, or can do nothing right.

we have struggled with this for 12 years, becasue or her R with her folks if I give 100% support then its good if I give 98% support or have differing opions, its becasue she is wrong and stupid. I don't know how to make her see me for who I am and not put words in my mouth that could not be farther from the truth.