Divorce and Children

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Oh no he visits when he is supposed to (most of the time) he just doesn't visit with just them. Which is what they beg for.


You could mention it. Or let the KIDS plan something just with them and him....and let THEM tell him how much they enjoyed it with him.

THis stuff worked for the Coach's ex. The only thing that I have experienced working for me is having my kids intiate what they want. And he likes to make them happy.




Well 2 and a half years later, this is the first time that I have been looking for a different place of work, I really am proud or myself that I did not let the pain of his departure over come me so much that I put aside the kids. It was my only prayer at the time, God please give me the strength to parent. I said it over and over.


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That's just me. I wouldn't bring the romantic drama into it.


Ok, well honestly they are really the primary reason I am not dating right now, and that is really ok with me. The thought of bringing someone else around them right now, b/c of the way they are suffering. I think that would be just to much for them. They have not met anyone.


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Lissie....because it's on your radar, you will figure it out and do a good job. In the early days of my divorce I was pretty focused on my own needs.


It is on my radar. It is heavy on my heart. Focusing on my own needs well, that is something I need to learn to do more of actually.




IF I were starting over......I've begun running again, I thought about joining a running club...and I might, but I think male runners are probably nuts. So I might join a hiking club. That would probably be it or something like Habitat. I probably wouldn't do it through church myself...never say never....that's how I met my exH.

I hope I never have to start over again.



But Lissie...as you know...you get to create it afresh this time. And that's exciting, too. You get to make some choices how you will meet someone and what criteria you need.


So what do you need to do to take care of you?