Hmmm...I actually think it sounds like she's afraid she's losing him and is trying to push your buttons. She lied to you before, so what makes you think she wouldn't do it again?

Do what YOU want to do. If you want to be friends and maintain a friendly relationship with XH, then do so. If you don't, don't.

She is a sad, pathetic human being who may have just lost what she saw as her way out of her mom's house.

She doesn't matter, he doesn't matter when you think about what YOU want. I say put her email addy on the spam filter and be done with it. Let them play out their high school drama by themselves.

You, on the other hand, sound good. Glad to hear it!

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!