On the phone call- please stop calling your H. Don't tell him your GALing, just DO IT; the part about "......because you haven't asked" sounded like pressure/an accusation to me.
Give him some space to wonder what you're up to, and time to get curious. This will take longer than you think, but then and only then will start moving towards you.
Glad you're feeling good about your GAL! What are you doing apart from swimming (sorry if I missed it- I read the thread quickly but haven't done the others yet)
