Ok so saying nothing about what he does, is the way I go now. I guess I will just continue that then.
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She just kept at him and said "Bobby misses you (not his name)..." why don't you take him for an hour.
I guess I will step this up a notch. Somtimes i just give up on him really. That is where I need to step it up. If he lives with the OW, (b/c 2 and a half years and have no idea where he lives) then he is about an hour away. So I usually just say forget it, but I should keep trying.
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With me...anything I suggest, my ex does the opposite. He always has to 'win' the situation. My kids won't ask them himselves.
Bingo same here.
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A judge won't make him visit....he may order it. He will most likely just give him the right to visit.
Oh no he visits when he is supposed to (most of the time) he just doesn't visit with just them. Which is what they beg for.
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I would have been less focused on survival and trying to get a career with money and education. We lived on less anyway, I think I would have made sure I relaxed more and just had more fun with the kids.
Well 2 and a half years later, this is the first time that I have been looking for a different place of work, I really am proud or myself that I did not let the pain of his departure over come me so much that I put aside the kids. It was my only prayer at the time, God please give me the strength to parent. I said it over and over.
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That's just me. I wouldn't bring the romantic drama into it.
Ok, well honestly they are really the primary reason I am not dating right now, and that is really ok with me. The thought of bringing someone else around them right now, b/c of the way they are suffering. I think that would be just to much for them. They have not met anyone.
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Lissie....because it's on your radar, you will figure it out and do a good job. In the early days of my divorce I was pretty focused on my own needs.
It is on my radar. It is heavy on my heart. Focusing on my own needs well, that is something I need to learn to do more of actually.
thanks
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