Trixi trying to find moorage

[Dom R]

I said that *for me*, I am not interested in a casual relationship. He says "We do not have anything casual. Our relationship is far from casual and very special." I say "yes, i know"

????

you should have called bull**** on that one.

he doesnt treat you like it is.
or rather... he treats you like it, when he feels like it.
That is pretty much the definition of a casual relationship.
Pay attention to you when he feels like it, do whatever he likes, when he doesnt.

6-He mentioned the boredom fear again and I said "It's all in your head. Just because you're with the same person doesn't mean you have to get bored. You seem to always be looking outside of yourself to 'feel' something; for something else to 'make' you feel not bored/happy/whatever. As long as you search for that outside of yourself, you will never, ever be happy and you'll always be reaching for something you can't get. Making sure you aren't bored is within you control and resting firmly between both of your ears."
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Any other good thoughts on how to address the boredom objection? Is he telling me something I'm not hearing?

I dont think so. Sounds like you nailed it right on. and maybe he actually listened to you on that one. nice way to handle it.