You're a grown man with strong principles and great sense of values. You're both being given a second chance to fully give, connect with each other and deal with all the stresses that come with blending a family, being a couple.
I squawk, gawk, run around like Cassandra in Troy but it's all hypothetical based on the 'feel' I get. You're the one changing your life, renewing your marriage.
You know what worked, what didn't work, what upset the apple cart, what put it on automatic pilot. You go, G-Man!