If you allow him to keep calling the shots and jerk you around now, you could end up with a sitch where he comes and goes as he pleases.. shows up at your new place... guilts you into letting him stay when he wants and then disappears again.
Oh my, how scary. This has become my world. Don't let it happen to you. Its harder to 'undo', I can soooo promise you that. Ask him to figure out what days he wants to see D4, and make a schedule. Did you see an atty about temporary custody agreement yet? That way you could get the daycare payment in writing.
((((((Sue))))))
I totally agree with this. Without an order in place H can come and go when he pleases and see D whenever he wants. He also doesn't "have" to pay any child support. At least in this state. What really scared me was I was told without an visitation order H can take D somewhere and there would be nothing I could do about it.
I am in this boat right now. Newly separated and H is coming when he feels like it. I want some sort of schedule so I can know when to expect him and get a move on with my own life.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
