Looking for support from other WAS's

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H and I attended our first MC session today. Overall, it went pretty well.

I happy to hear you feel that way!!

I know that some people may say that we should find a counselor who is adamant about saving the marriage and allowing us no other options, but I think that her approach works for us because H and I are both very skittish right now about our life together.

You & he need to be comfortable with whomever you are seeing.

After talking with the counselor, we both realize that our problems go much deeper than me being dissatisfied with him being a workaholic and the resulting OM/affair. It was difficult re-hashing all the things that we had thought we were finished discussing, and I know that it will get harder as we progress.

More than likely it will..... no one said it would be easy, but no one said it would be this hard. You have support here when you need it.

On a side note, I thought it was rather amusing that, after discussing how H's work has interfered with our M for all these years, H had to tell the counselor that he didn't know when he could meet with her/us again because he is going out of town for work for the next 1 - 3 weeks.

yeah.. my H couldn't come for almost a month (although he just canceled the appointments) because of his choice to prioritize his job over the counseling) Our counselor finally called him on it and he told her she just didn't get what it was like to HAVE to get thingsdone in a timely manner for his job. She just looked at him and affirmed his feelings. We did not go back.

Hope you have better luck with your H committing to it.

How are you feeling about those 'deeper issues'?
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