You are totally right, this is a no win situation. "Do you think these make me look fat" your answer always has to be "No sweetheart, you look great". She says, "I'm fat & need to lose weight" you say "not in my opinion". If you stay quiet & don't disagree, you're digging your own grave.
You are right SC I was hoping you would help out here. I just needed to be sure I was doing it right and with three ladies saying the same thing I will continue to disagree.
Thanks all.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
If you try "baby I love every inch of you" she hears, he thinks I'm fat. "I love how you look", she hears, he thinks I'm fat & doesn't want to hurt my feelings. "you look gorgeous to me" she hears, maybe I'm not gorgeous to other men, just my H.
You could try "what did your personal trainer say" or stay with facts "what is your bmi"
You are correct on all of these responces and I did not ask what her BMI was that to me is like asking a women her age or weight. Not even going there.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Then there's the positive aspect...."you're thinner than when you were pregnant".
I'm trying to save my M not have myself put in traction at the local hospital for being ran over by my W in a car.
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
So, if you make any comment about anything she is eating, you're in the doghouse. LOL If you offer her to serve her ice cream, she realizes that you are okay with how she looks. Just keep offering ice cream, & telling her she's beautiful. lol
She is very good about what the whole family eats and yes I would never ever comment on anything she eats. Learned that a long, long time a ago.
Thanks again SC. Have not been over to your sitch for quite a while too hard to follow with all the people that post. Do have one question. How did the letter to your father go? Did you get a responce or is he gone for good now? Hopefully the latter for you.
