M,
I found your posting to be inspiring for those who come here to visit and post. Brue's posting really says it all.

I remember all of the heartache and frustration you went through last year. You've come a very long way and I'm very happy to see that even through your h is still out to lunch, you and your family are surviving and thriving beautifully.

Dbing is not only about attempting to save your marriage, but more importantly, it is about saving you. It is about finding ways to help you cope, move on and begin to live again. It's a tool that you can use in your day-to-day life and not just for restoring a marriage and/or relationship.

I wish you and your family all of the best. Please come back to visit again soon.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.