My h and I both worked on it together. He knew how I felt because I told him. Just as I had to wait for him to get through is problems, he had to wait for me to get through that. What was great is that he understood. It worked!
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YR, Did you tell him this (not sure whether you love him as much after the A) after he moved home that last time?
I am so weary this week. Still no news from H in 4.5 weeks, except the call he made which I missed last Fri. He didn't call back. Not sure how to take that - whether he's being vindictive for missing his calls. Plus I emailed the boys saying I didn't understand what's going on with their Dad. I also explained I have been very quiet. And that I am doing my best to show them all my love and care from a distance. Not sure if they went and asked him why I wrote what I wrote and he got mad....
Yes, I did tell him how I felt. I needed to get it all out in the open. You know start fresh.
Maybe your h just needs this time to work on himself. He might just be withdrawing for now. Like I said before we can never tell what is going on in their minds.
Thank you for all the answers. All of you have asked great questions! Some I have thought of myself but right now I'm no where near that area. I hope I will be one day!
YR, I posted about this on my thread. SS emailed me last minute (then called) about visiting tomorrow morning. Couldn't make it. Then H got on phone and we arranged for Mon evening. A close call and a delicate balance...
I cannot believe it is to be near 110 out your way. Unbelievable!!
Your area is sounding a lot like where I live.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
going to read it now. i have had a whirlwind of a week, also.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity