Hi (((Mike))), you are human & it hurts. It's totally not fair. I agree she's being a major petty b*tch. I think she's wrong, & I wish I could slap her a good one for you.

The only advice I have is that with your D you can create hundreds & thousands of memories. There are going to be so many firsts. First merry go round, first roller coaster, first time in the ocean, first time at Sea World, first time at Legoland, first time with cotton candy (I still remember how my youngest spit it out & said it felt like hair in his mouth), first day of kindergarten, first day of junior high, first date, first kiss, first time she doesn't make cheerleading, first heartbreak .......Does this help ?

So yeah, take the high road, you're setting an example for your D. She's not old enough to know it now, but one day she'll hear the stories. One day she'll decide for herself how her parents conducted themselves.

I wish I could say more that would help.


M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.