I am however living with a woman who does many things that are hurtful to me. A woman who makes a lot of decisions without thinking about how I feel and what is best for me when it comes to our kids.
You think I don't understand my friend, really?
You may be hearing some of this wrong Mike, I am not condoning her actions, I am not saying that anything she is doing is right, and I am not telling you not to feel the pain of it all. I understand all of that.
What I am telling you is that you have within your grasp a circle of influence. There are certain things you have within your circle of influence. Your actions, your decisions, and your choices. Her actions, her decisions, and her choices are not within your circle of influence. There is nothing you can do to affect her decisions. You have no ability to control any of the things that she chooses to do.
You do however have the ability and influence to control how you handle the insanity. You have the ability and influence to control your actions/reactions. It is within your influence to take on the battles that are worth fighting.
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he same mediator who let her sit for 20 minutes and tell everyone how she felt, let her rewrite history, let her say I was a suck ass dad. Let her bombard my ass for 3.5 hours..
The mediator is not stupid Mike. The mediator can read her like a book. The mediator will in the end be your best asset in getting what you want. Sometimes when a mediator lets a person have lots of rope, and it looks like they are siding with your spouse, the reality is it is so that they can hang themselves.
Mike, you are hearing what you want to hear rather than the actual message. I am gonna leave you be for now, my intent was not to upset you, it was to help you.
Take care of yourself buddy, and breathe.
Ian
I'm not upset at you. Never have been. Never will be.
I'm not upset at Lissie either..or anyone else who posts to me.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 08/03/0803:26 AM.
