Lisa my sitch is I have detached and I am not focusing on the M, H had the affair last year and wants to stay together, said he'll change do anything for me, etc.....
I have detached from him starting a couple of years ago when things caught up with me and his A now has caused too much pain to bear and I am just here right now because of my children. H won't leave house.
Can't offer any advice but I just want to say I am in your H position but it sounds like he is trying and I'm not so you are ahead of the game.
Also my H was laid off in April and took a job 2 months ago and he will be on the 3 to 11:30pm shift in another month, I work days and m-f and Sun 8-1 and Fridays 6-9 so I will be glad not to see him. But it is ironic that your H and my H are on the same shift and it is because of lay offs.
But still count your blessing because H is where he wants to be and so are you. As for me H is where he wants to be and I don't want him here, I think I need to feel him out of my life to know if he is worth having him in my life, (we have 5 children 12 to 18 yrs old.) How do you deal with H having A? I can't!
