Shiny, it's like he's fighting his feelings still after all this time. I agree that actions speak louder than words but it was pretty hurtful to hear him say what he said the other day. The fact is that I haven't been his priority for a long time and i used to be. He's an easy going guy who goes with the flow to keep the peace. He didn't go ahead with the big D because it was easier to just stay M. I accepted it and looked at it as a chance to DB big time and for him to unknowingly DB himself. And it worked- I thought. Lisa