You know Mike, there is a general rule of thumb to wait 48 hours before reacting to things that our STBX does. You should learn that rule because once you calm down and get past the initial hurt, you will see things more clearly.
Lissie pretty much covered exactly what I would have said to you about your mom. It wasn't worth it.
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Ian, this morning when I got up, I cleaned up, changed and took "her" trash to the station to get rid of it. I then went back to get a load of stuff to move to the house. Part of that stuff included a hand written cookbook by my mother which was given to my D. So I go to where I had moved the cookbook and lo and behold, cookbook missing. So I ask STBX where the cookbook is. I get informed it's her cookbook and it stays here..as a matter of fact the cookbook for my D just happened to have been moved to my STBX place of business...
So you explain to her once the importance of the cookbook. If she does not respect you then you bring it up in mediation and you let the mediator tell her what an idiot she is being. Simple answer.
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So is that right Ian. Should I just overlook that? Ya know there's a picture of my STBX's grandmother framed on the wall, underneath the picture in the frame is a handwritten recipe for a "snowball" cake..what if I just went in and ripped that down and took it to work??
Then you would be as big of a bitch as your wife, next question please.
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As far as snooping..she's been in my stuff..she looked for evidence of an A. I looked in her stuff for evidence of an A and did last night. She has removed items from the house.
OK Mike, you say that you are straight forward, matter of fact, well here it is.
You are not a child. Two wrongs do not make a right and you know this. How about if it was your daughter and you were advising her on what to do, would you approve of her snooping and rationalize it by saying well everyone else is doing it?
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So what is right Ian?? What is right??
You are a smart guy Mike, a lot smarter than you are acting today. I get that, we all get pissed and irritated by their actions. I will not even answer this question, you know what is right.
Let me tell you something bro, people learn to know you around here. These posts, are not you. Step back and breathe for a bit buddy and come on back when your mind is right.
All of the folks on here will tell you that in this forum we more or less look out for each other. We try and help each other make sure that when all is said and done we have as few regrets as possible about the actions that we took during the process. Coming through this with as few scars as possible is truly the mission around here.
