I am trying to leave H be. Today he came to d13's game. He came and plopped his chair next to mine. Told me that he is having an awful week and that he has been having nightmares about s16. He even said he called s16 yesterday and left him a vm (I know he did...s16 told me. s16 also asked me to tell him not to call again...which I won't do).
Anyway, while at the game he said that he was still planning to go away tomorrow but not too far. He originally planned to go to atlantic city. Whatever. I told him I hoped he had a great time...but inside it was killing me. To go away on the one day that you can spend time with your daughter, spend money to go away when I have none....ugh.
As the game went on he was very to himself which was fine by me. He did ask about dentists as he is having a problem with a tooth and mentioned he still needs new glasses. I hold the insurance.....and he asked if he was still covered on dental and eye. I told him i would check.
Now here is the dilema...Yes I know how to share. I would never cut him off medical unless the D goes through. However, I feel like he is taking advantage by asking for the dental and eye cards. He doesn't want to be married to me, doesn't help around the house, has a married girlfriend and wants me to provide his coverage. Man this guy has it good!!
Part of me wants to tell him he is on his own for this...let's see how he likes it and part of me doesn't want to be so spiteful. Not sure what to do. I guess I should get over his getaway tomorrow and then think about it. Any advice would be great.
So, tomorrow I will spend the day with the children and then they are going out to dinner and a movie with friends from camp. S16 and d13 are getting along great and I am so thankful for that.
D13 was upset today when her dad told her he was going away tomorrow and wouldn't be seeing her. He also wouldn't tell her where he was going. The night out with s16 will help her.
Anyway, Snodderly and everyone.....I wish I knew why H was having these nightmares and if he really is or if he is just trying to soften me up for the insurance. I hate to be so cynical but he shows no sign of returning and no regret for what he has done.....I wonder if this is the guilt pouring out.
Who knows. Off to the mall with d13 to window shop.
